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Joey W. Hill…and me!

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I signed up for the 2014 BDSM Readers & Writers Conference for two reasons: I thought it would be fun to attend the demos, and I wanted to meet Joey W. Hill, the keynote speaker. I love her books. Like…love. Fangirl squee love. She was my introduction to BDSM fiction, and she is a Mistress of the genre. LOVE! (And not only did I get to meet her, I was lucky enough to host a Kinky Confessional reader party with her, the spectacular Robin L. Rotham, and the incredible Jennifer Kacey. Joey even texted me during the conference! And we went out to dinner! And she hugged me! It was epic.)

The Kinky Confessional crew: Rpbin L. Rotham, Jennifer Kacey, Miranda Baker, Joey W. Hill (from left to right)

The Kinky Confessional crew: Robin L. Rotham, Jennifer Kacey, Miranda Baker, Joey W. Hill (from left to right) After that little party, I have no more secrets. None.

I arrived at the opulent Roosevelt hotel, dropped my stuff off in my room and went to check out the conference floor so I’d know where to go the next day. Lady Sabrina of My Lady’s Toys was setting up her lingerie and sex toy store, so I poked my nose in there for a minute and then left her in peace. Good stuff. Bondage tape and corsets all over the place! Once I discovered a coffee shop across the street from the hotel, I knew I could go to sleep. Caffeine source. Check!

There were so many inspiring moments during the next few days, both before and after my husband arrived on Friday morning, I’m going to have to make a list of the first ten that come to mind, or this post would turn into a novel. I’ve already procrastinated writing this for two weeks because I don’t know how to explain all the awesomeness. I feel like I can’t do justice to the topic because it was more than a conference. It was also a retreat and a damn fun, kinky party. I left with a deeper understanding of several different aspects of BDSM and a desire to carry them forward into my writing and my bedroom. And maybe a few other places, too…

So, in no particular order, I totally grooved on:

1. Eric Pride‘s BDSM demo. The connection he and his bottom created was mesmerizing. She was beautifully responsive to him, and his mastery of tone, hands, whip, and rope gave me goosebumps.

2. The Kinky Mix & Mingle at Paddles, NYC’s longest-running BDSM club. It was a very interesting place to explore. St. Andrew’s crosses. A cage…on a pulley. A thing a little bit like a stock, but double-sided, offering many erotic inspirations. Nooks and crannies. A throne-thing I didn’t look at very closely because I was having a fascinating conversation with Robin L. Rotham. Off-site events forced me out of my conference hotel bubble, a very good thing.

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Bo Blaze, me, and my new whip.

3. Bo Blaze‘s two workshops: BDSM Toys 101 (live demo) and Button Pushing For Pleasure. Fascinating! I loved his frank and accessible discussion of the psychological underpinnings of his household. I’m kicking myself because I didn’t have him sign the books I brought home, especially since I’ll be giving one away soon.

4. Fetish party hosted by Powder and the NY Fetish Tribe. I’ll leave that to your imagination. Don’t hold back.

5. Dr. Matthew Scrivens’s (author of SOLE SURVIVOR) workshop on Psychopaths, Sociopaths, and Serial Killers. It was just what I needed, when I needed it, to inspire future work.

6. All the smiles, passion, and enthusiasm. It was an inclusive and friendly group. I never got it straight who was author/writer/reader, and it didn’t matter. I suppose I should have been networking harder, but I was having too much fun.

7. Violet wand demo by Traveling Fool and Mary Ann. An absolute hoot! I’m going to have to try that sometime…

8. Dr. Charley Ferrer and Rose C. Carole’s energetic and enthusiastic dedication to doing everything they could to coordinate an amazing experience for all conference goers. They worked all weekend! Even in the midst of busy chaos, I could see their wheels turning as they thought about how to do it bigger and better next year.

9. Bo Blaze gave me a whip cracking lesson at the Book Fair. Okay, that wasn’t an official event, but it was fun! When I got home the next day, I wasn’t sure if my arm was sore from dragging luggage through the airport or from cracking a whip. Awesome.

10. Being able to let my kink flag fly in good company. Or not. Or half-mast. Whether a conference attendee was kinky in real life, kinky in fiction, or curious about kink, all were accepted and made to feel welcome. I was afraid I’d feel outclassed kink-wise since my husband and I don’t get out much in the community, but I didn’t. I felt free to absorb the material presented and ask questions.

Those are just the first ten things that popped into my head. I also co-led two workshops: From the Books to the Bedroom with Leia Shaw and Be Careful or You’ll End Up in my Novel with Cris Anson, two amazing women. There was a publisher panel and a ton more workshops. I wish I had been able to attend them all! (Here’s a list of 2014 attending authors.) If this sounds up your alley, discounted early registration is open for the 2015 conference in August. ($200 until October 1st, a total deal. Of course, a NYC hotel stay is pricey, so I recommend you recruit some friends to share costs!) I hope to see you there!

Oh! GIVEAWAY! Attending authors, publishers, and industry professional put some pretty sweet swag in the goody bags! Since my husband attended, and we don’t need two bags, I’ll give one away. Want to see who attended? Need a pair of handcuff earrings? Like excerpt booklets? A flash drive?

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The goodies in the bag!

The goodies in the bag!

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BDSM Writers Conference 2014

When I heard Joey W. Hill was keynoting this conference, I wanted to go. When I learned there would be BDSM lifestyle demonstrations and a visit to a kink club, I wanted to go…and bring my husband! When I remembered I write BDSM romance, I submitted proposals for two workshops. I’m going! My workshops are:

From the Books to the Bedroom: Bringing Fantasy to Life (with Desiree Holt and Leia Shaw) and Be Careful or You’ll End Up in My Novel: Using D/s experience to Write the Next Book (with Cris Anson). You won’t believe the amazing workshops offered by the other authors. It’s an All-Star line-up and I’m thrilled to be among them!

I hope to see you there! Here’s the official info:

BDSM WRITERS CON 2014

Whether you’re a writer or a reader, BDSM WRITERS CON 2014 is for you. This conference is the only place where you will receive information on the fundamentals of Dominance and submission, feel safe exploring and perhaps experimenting a little at a BDSM Club, and get to do it all while hanging out with your favorite authors or making new favorites.

Below is a list of what readers can expect—yet don’t forget, you also have the added benefits of all the additional workshops geared toward authors which hold valuable information that can enhance your understanding and your relationships. Plus, you’ll learn what your authors know and have a chance to tell them what you’d like to see them write.

Readers AND Authors will attend and/or participate in the following events:

Five Lifestyle LIVE Demonstrations (taught by individuals who actually live the BDSM lifestyle)

Three Panels Discussions by Lifestyle Practitioners (addressing issues on relationships, creating scenes, and getting started)

Two Workshops on BDSM fundamentals

That’s 10-workshops on GENERAL INFORMATION about BDSM in addition to all the workshops geared toward writers which hold valuable information such topics as Healing and Catharsis, Polyamory and Ménage, From Novels to the bedroom, and more.

Everyone will attend the four conference activities

BEST BDSM Book of the Year Award Ceremony

Reader/Author Mix & Mingle

A Night at the BDSM Club

Book signing Sunday

BUT WAIT THERE’S MORE!

Several of your favorite authors are planning private parties for fans in their suites.

Other authors are planning pre/post conference events for you to join them in.

STILL WANT MORE?

YOU GOT IT!

How about a discount admission for the FIRST 30-Days of registration — a Savings of $75

Registration only $275

Registration opens midnight September 1 thru October 1, 2013

(Note: Buy now/Pay later plan available–don’t miss out on this amazing discount!)

Reserve your hotel stay within the first 30-days of registration to lock in the discounted rate of $229 (price per night single/double occupancy)

Plus

Three lucky winners who also book their hotel within the first 30-days of registration

will be chosen at random to receive one of the following prizes

(Prizes cannot be exchanged for cash; redeemable first day of the conference. Prizes courtesy of Dr. Charley Ferrer)

A free FULL conference registration for a friend/spouse (value $350)

One FREE-Night at the hotel (value $229)

One FREE 50-minute consultation with Dr. Charley Ferrer (value $250)

Registration opens midnight September 1, 2013

Authors attending the conference can sign up to autograph & sell books

BOOK SIGNING SUNDAY

Limited to first 50 authors

Please send an email for further information.

Sign up for BDSM WRITERS CON 2014 Newsletter and be the first to receive:

Up-to-date information on conference workshops and activities planned

Information on prizes and giveaways

Updates on book contest

Special comments from presenting authors

And much more…

CLICK HERE for more information!

CLICK HERE to register for the conference!

I hope to see you there!

Miranda Does Los Angeles

Y’all know all about my penchant for porn shops, so when I went to Los Angeles to visit my high school BFF we went sex toy shopping. We did other stuff too – great restaurants, Venice Beach, the Burbank farmers market, non-sex shopping in The Grove – but sex toy shopping was high on our must-list. After all, this friend and I bought each other black lace garter belts for our eighteenth birthdays. We felt so wicked!

I consulted Eden Bradley, another LA native/erotic romance author/BDSM practitioner/helpful person to see where we should go to get the most bang for our time. Here’s what she said: “I have two recommendations. First is The Pleasure Chest in West Hollywood. Amazing selection, especially if you want to see the kink supplies, but also an excellent selection of vibrators, lube, etc. The second is the Hustler store in Hollywood, where I’ve done a lot of In the Flesh readings. They also have a nice li’l cafe with yummy baked goodies and a really nice book selection. Both places are clean, have nice folks working there. Oh-and the Hustler store has an awesome selection of stripper shoes. :)”

Sounded good to me.

I love to go to sex shops with people who don’t usually frequent them. I’m afraid I’ve reached a point where I’ve tried a bunch of things and haves drawers full of inventive accoutrements. I don’t really NEED another vibrator when my favorite works so well. (Although I was rather smitten with a bumpy on one end, swirly on the other glass dildo…) But I can say to a friend, “Oh, I love this! Try this! Ever used one of these before?” Shop with me if you don’t want to go home empty handed! I am shameless about soliciting opinions from salespeople too. I’ve made more than one impulse purchase because it came highly recommended by a sex shop girl. In fact, the Come Again series was born in a sex shop in Toronto. My BFF walked out of The Pleasure Chest with the biggest bag they had. She let me hold it for this photo.

For the girls and the girls and the boys and the boys!

I will admit I bought a toy simply because it was called “Bottoms Up” and it looked well-made. I also couldn’t resist the sweetest-looking pink thong whip, although I have since discovered it isn’t as sweet as it looks…

My friend got the Lelo Ina vibrator, which is why they gave her the big bag. Worth every penny, she says. Reviewed in O Magazine, even. She sure can pick ’em! Her bag was crammed full of other stuff, too. I made her buy a single-use, sure to be a winner cock ring in honor of SoloPlay. She also bought a lube called Sliquid. She’s got sensitive parts, so if you do too, this might be the lube for you! It’s organic!

Another favorite moment from the trip – my henna tattoo. I covet tattoos, although I don’t have one myself yet. I’m old enough not to regret it, so it’s only a matter of time. What to get? Where to put it? When I know, I’m totally getting ink.

And a tan!

It was a marvelous trip – with unique souvenirs. My husband was really happy to see me, and my friend’s husband thinks I am a very good influence. I bet both of them will be willing to let us swan off to a swanky hotel for a weekend again in the future…

Almost the entire length of the continental US separates me from this friend of my heart. We met when we were fifteen, more than half our lives ago. She has been through every heartbreak with me. She was my first reader, the first one to believe I would publish my stories. We’ve stayed close despite the distance, the children, the husbands and our other great friends. I cried on the Flyaway bus to the airport. Before this visit, the last time I stood in her house was a decade ago. It won’t be another decade before we get the chance to spend unhurried time together. Life is too short. We will find time, make money, prioritize. Taking time away from my everyday reality brought things into focus for me and I want to keep that clarity now that I’m back home. So far, so good…

How about you? Is there something big that you are denying yourself that will bring clarity, value or positivity to your life? A trip with a friend, like me? Another degree? A job change? A baby? Can you make it happen? How?