Kink Inspiration


Joey W. Hill…and me!

(Enter to win a goody bag from BDSM Readers and Writers Conference!)

I signed up for the 2014 BDSM Readers & Writers Conference for two reasons: I thought it would be fun to attend the demos, and I wanted to meet Joey W. Hill, the keynote speaker. I love her books. Like…love. Fangirl squee love. She was my introduction to BDSM fiction, and she is a Mistress of the genre. LOVE! (And not only did I get to meet her, I was lucky enough to host a Kinky Confessional reader party with her, the spectacular Robin L. Rotham, and the incredible Jennifer Kacey. Joey even texted me during the conference! And we went out to dinner! And she hugged me! It was epic.)

The Kinky Confessional crew: Rpbin L. Rotham, Jennifer Kacey, Miranda Baker, Joey W. Hill (from left to right)

The Kinky Confessional crew: Robin L. Rotham, Jennifer Kacey, Miranda Baker, Joey W. Hill (from left to right) After that little party, I have no more secrets. None.

I arrived at the opulent Roosevelt hotel, dropped my stuff off in my room and went to check out the conference floor so I’d know where to go the next day. Lady Sabrina of My Lady’s Toys was setting up her lingerie and sex toy store, so I poked my nose in there for a minute and then left her in peace. Good stuff. Bondage tape and corsets all over the place! Once I discovered a coffee shop across the street from the hotel, I knew I could go to sleep. Caffeine source. Check!

There were so many inspiring moments during the next few days, both before and after my husband arrived on Friday morning, I’m going to have to make a list of the first ten that come to mind, or this post would turn into a novel. I’ve already procrastinated writing this for two weeks because I don’t know how to explain all the awesomeness. I feel like I can’t do justice to the topic because it was more than a conference. It was also a retreat and a damn fun, kinky party. I left with a deeper understanding of several different aspects of BDSM and a desire to carry them forward into my writing and my bedroom. And maybe a few other places, too…

So, in no particular order, I totally grooved on:

1. Eric Pride‘s BDSM demo. The connection he and his bottom created was mesmerizing. She was beautifully responsive to him, and his mastery of tone, hands, whip, and rope gave me goosebumps.

2. The Kinky Mix & Mingle at Paddles, NYC’s longest-running BDSM club. It was a very interesting place to explore. St. Andrew’s crosses. A cage…on a pulley. A thing a little bit like a stock, but double-sided, offering many erotic inspirations. Nooks and crannies. A throne-thing I didn’t look at very closely because I was having a fascinating conversation with Robin L. Rotham. Off-site events forced me out of my conference hotel bubble, a very good thing.

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Bo Blaze, me, and my new whip.

3. Bo Blaze‘s two workshops: BDSM Toys 101 (live demo) and Button Pushing For Pleasure. Fascinating! I loved his frank and accessible discussion of the psychological underpinnings of his household. I’m kicking myself because I didn’t have him sign the books I brought home, especially since I’ll be giving one away soon.

4. Fetish party hosted by Powder and the NY Fetish Tribe. I’ll leave that to your imagination. Don’t hold back.

5. Dr. Matthew Scrivens’s (author of SOLE SURVIVOR) workshop on Psychopaths, Sociopaths, and Serial Killers. It was just what I needed, when I needed it, to inspire future work.

6. All the smiles, passion, and enthusiasm. It was an inclusive and friendly group. I never got it straight who was author/writer/reader, and it didn’t matter. I suppose I should have been networking harder, but I was having too much fun.

7. Violet wand demo by Traveling Fool and Mary Ann. An absolute hoot! I’m going to have to try that sometime…

8. Dr. Charley Ferrer and Rose C. Carole’s energetic and enthusiastic dedication to doing everything they could to coordinate an amazing experience for all conference goers. They worked all weekend! Even in the midst of busy chaos, I could see their wheels turning as they thought about how to do it bigger and better next year.

9. Bo Blaze gave me a whip cracking lesson at the Book Fair. Okay, that wasn’t an official event, but it was fun! When I got home the next day, I wasn’t sure if my arm was sore from dragging luggage through the airport or from cracking a whip. Awesome.

10. Being able to let my kink flag fly in good company. Or not. Or half-mast. Whether a conference attendee was kinky in real life, kinky in fiction, or curious about kink, all were accepted and made to feel welcome. I was afraid I’d feel outclassed kink-wise since my husband and I don’t get out much in the community, but I didn’t. I felt free to absorb the material presented and ask questions.

Those are just the first ten things that popped into my head. I also co-led two workshops: From the Books to the Bedroom with Leia Shaw and Be Careful or You’ll End Up in my Novel with Cris Anson, two amazing women. There was a publisher panel and a ton more workshops. I wish I had been able to attend them all! (Here’s a list of 2014 attending authors.) If this sounds up your alley, discounted early registration is open for the 2015 conference in August. ($200 until October 1st, a total deal. Of course, a NYC hotel stay is pricey, so I recommend you recruit some friends to share costs!) I hope to see you there!

Oh! GIVEAWAY! Attending authors, publishers, and industry professional put some pretty sweet swag in the goody bags! Since my husband attended, and we don’t need two bags, I’ll give one away. Want to see who attended? Need a pair of handcuff earrings? Like excerpt booklets? A flash drive?

(Enter to win a goody bag from BDSM Readers and Writers Conference!)

The goodies in the bag!

The goodies in the bag!

RT Convention in New Orleans

Who’s going? I am! I plan to drop my stuff off at the hotel and head out into the French Quarter in search of oysters, beignets, and a daiquiri. In that order. Maybe.

Free download of BOTTOMS UP, leather and seed pearl necklace, bondage tape, rubber flogger/tickler, THE Christian Grey tie, and swag!

Free download of BOTTOMS UP, leather and seed pearl necklace, bondage tape, rubber flogger/tickler, THE Christian Grey tie, and swag!

If you’re going to RT and would like to meet me, I’d LOVE to meet you. Look for me here:

Club RT, Wednesday, May 14th, noon

Samhain Sinners and Saints Party, Thursday, May 15th, 9-Midnight

Club RT, Friday, May 16th, 10:30 am

I’ll have swag, including GIRL TROUBLE excerpt booklets! I also have a basket in the Club RT giveaway. It’s full of awesome and hilarious. The guy at Spencer’s loved me so much he cracked a 69 joke when I checked out. Then he talked me into the tie. Not literally.😉

Whether you’re attending the convention or not, feel free to tweet me and ask what I’m drinking, eating, or who I’m fangirling all over. There’s going to be a lot of that! Happy May, y’all!

Girl Trouble Birthday Bash!

GirlTrouble300At last! At last! It’s release day for GIRL TROUBLE, and Bonita gets her happy ending! I’m thrilled for her, thrilled for her girlfriend Kat, and just thrilled in general because even if it snows from here until eternity, it’s going to be April soon. And my birthday is in April. And I love my birthday!

Actually, we refer to it as my birthMONTH around here. I use it as an excuse to do fun things like go out to lunch, buy ridiculously expensive shampoo, eat Oreo Blizzards, binge-read books I’ve been saving, kiss anyone who gets too close, and do too much yoga. You know, the usual stuff, but funner! Do you like your birthday? I’m turning 42, and even though the bod is doing the aging thing, I couldn’t be happier. Why? Here are some good reasons: somebody posted this NY Times piece on FB and it resonated hard with me. Plus my twelve-year-old told me I was cool the other day. I bet she’ll change her mind when she’s thirteen, but, hey…I’m cool now. And there will be daffodils soon. And I’ll be able to run outside. (I’m using that as an excuse not to run on a treadmill.) Yes, April is the coolest month. (Prufrock be damned. I sing my love songs in April.) Sing with me!

Tell me something good. A book you loved. A birthday you had. Your favorite cake. Your favorite anything. Let’s focus on all things good together!

All commenters will earn an entry in my GIRL TROUBLE birthday giveaway. Prizes will involve leather, shiny things, books, and gift cards. Winners will be picked on my birthday, April 8th. Giveaway is International. You must be 18 to enter. Incorrect or incomplete entry voids entry. Winner will be chosen by a random method and will be contacted within 2 days after the contest ends. Winner has two days to claim prize. Entry constitutes agreement to the rules and confirms age.

GirlTrouble300Get your GIRL on…

There are no safe words for love.
Come Again, Book 4
Bonita Pritchard has tried everything to get over the one woman she can’t have, movie star and secret lover Kat St. James. Yoga, tantra, psychotherapy, even BDSM. Nothing has helped for long.

Hanging on the thinnest thread of denied desire, Bonita heads for Hollywood to get her Kat fix, fully intending to return straight home to her sex-toy boutique, Come Again. Until she sees the surprise Kat has in store for her.

Playing the talented bad girl kick-started Kat’s career twelve years ago. Now she’s famous, filthy rich…and totally miserable. Leaving Bonita in Norton was a mistake, and she’s planning one last attempt to fix it—by transforming her king-sized closet into a dungeon. And using her training as a Domme to satisfy her lover’s latest kink.

Soon, their white-hot need for each other transcends their desire to protect Kat’s heterosexual screen-siren image. But when compromising pictures surface, Kat realizes there’s only one way to beat the tabloid gossip that’s tearing them apart. Fight fire with fire…

Warning: This book contains kink in the closet, sexy games in an SUV, and D/s in the middle of the living room. And love strong enough to break all bonds.